Veronica's Mom

 “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. And you know the way to where I am going.”
John 14:1-4




Sanida Jean Perez    July 11, 1961 - March 12, 2010

What my mom means to me, it's still hard to say that sometimes........ my mom  was a wonderful woman. We didn't have that best friend relationship that alot of girls have with their mom but that's ok. Growing up you never think that you're parents won't be around, but then one day they aren't. 

Growing up I was able to pull alot of things over on my mom, for the most part I wasn't a bad kid. I didn't get into a lot of trouble. Then I became pregnant at 16.....that was a total game changer. My mom really amazed me the way she helped me, that was after she got over the anger. She made sure I finished school, she would not let me drop out. That wasn't an option for me in her mind. I think a lot of it had to do with the fact that she married my dad so young and didn't finish school, she wanted better for her kids. She didn't work so she could take care of her grandson so I could go to school. That was the type of person she was. 


She wasn't the most religous but she would do whatever she could to help anyone out, family or friends. For a moment my relationship with my mom (well both of my parents) was a bit rocky so I moved out. Moving out was just the thing needed to improve our relationship. Ok fast forward, one of my cousins had a baby, and without going into much detail he was taken away from her. He could have been adopted by someone else and we never would have seen him again, well my mom did not like that idea at all, she stepped up and decided to take him in. Then wouldn't you know it my cousin ended up pregnant again, well needless to say that baby was taken from her the moment after she had her. While yes that may seem cruel, it really is a good thing. I now have a wonderful little brother and sister!! Well shortly after my little sister was born my dad had a massive stroke and was in the hospital for many years. My mother completely ignnored her health and made sure she was always there for him. We could see the emotionally and physical toll it took on her, but any time we told her to do this or do that we'd get "I'm fine." More time passed and we lost my dad, then just as things are starting to feel a bit normal and we find out that my mom had cancer. She fought the good fight but unfortunately she lost. Not a day goes by that I don't miss my mom. Some days are better than others. My mom was a kind, thoughtful, sweet, funny woman, she really was the glue that held our family together. In my entire life I have never heard anyone say anything bad about her. 


Because of her I learned to be kind, compassionate and try to help in any way I can. I know it is a bit cliche but the world was a better place with her in it and will forever be different with her gone. So for those of you that still have your mom make sure you say you love her, tell her what she means to you because one day your whole world can change, And for those of you that don't have the best relationship with your mom, work on it, make it civil because at the end of the day she still is your mom and wheter you realize it or not you will miss her.


Veronica

“Has this world been so kind to you that you should leave with regret? There are better things ahead than any we leave behind.”  ~ C.S. Lewis

Thank You so much for sharing this with us Veronica! 

I pray it make all of us evaluate our relationships and adjust them according to the will of God. 

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Stella